Why do children have imaginary friends? It kind of makes
sense. I mean, with real friends you have to put up with flaws, pet peeves,
allergies, and you have to share your toys with them. So what I find very odd
is that all imaginary friends I've ever had the pleasure of meeting have, in
some way or another, had flaws. An imaginary could possibly be "the
perfect" friend. You create them so you could make them act anyway they
wanted but...
Once a week I babysit a sweet little two and a half year old, toe head, bouncy
girl I love very much. I call her Lil M. One night while I was babysitting I
suddenly found out Lil M had an imaginary friend she called "Doggy".
He was a grey dog that was either the size of a quarter (because she carried
him around in one little cupped hand) or he was the size of a Jack Russell Terrier
cause when she petted his head it was at the level of her little 2 year-old
waist.
After meeting Doggy, telling Doggy to go down the stairs a dozen times, and
almost stepping on Doggy I don't know how many times, Lil M told me Doggy
needed to go potty outside. She all three of us got on our coats and went
outside, and while outside Doggy kept running off. First Doggy would run and
hide under my car and we'd try to catch him. Then doggy would run to the front
porch and we'd have to chase him. Then Doggy jumped a seven foot fence in the
garden but just couldn't seem to jump out so *da da da duh!* super Abby had to
go and save Doggy. And after reach time we would catch Doggy Lil M would tell
him he was a bad dog and Doggy would be sorry and maybe whimper a bit and Emily
would then pat him or hug him and tell him he was a good doggy again, and
wouldn't you know it, he'd run off and they'd repeat the whole thing again.
After Lil M went to bed I started wondering about Doggy. Why didn't Doggy act
like a perfect dog? And why would Lil M keep forgiving Doggy if she knew he was
just going to run off again.
Doggy is very real to her so, through what I've seen, she tries to make doggy
as life-like as possible. So can a two year old already understand that nothing
and no one (not even Doggy) is perfect? Does Lil M know (perhaps only
subconsciously) that there is no such thing as perfection? And how can a child
(no matter what age) that has never been to church or heard a Bible story take
the concepts of unfailing love, repentance, and unconditional forgiveness and
apply it to her imaginary friend? Maybe I'll never understand exactly how a
child thinks but it sure amazes me how much I always learn from them.
I LOVE this!! This is soo good!
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